Season & life --(@

Lessons on Life You cannot judge a tree, or a person, by only one season, and that the essence of who they are and the pleasure, joy, and love that come from that life can only be measured at the end, when all the seasons are up. If you give up when it's winter, you will miss the promise of your spring, the beauty of your summer, and fulfillment of your fall.

Life cycle --(@

Did I marry the right person --(@

During one of our seminars, a woman asked a common question.

She said, "How do I know if I married the right person?"

I noticed that there was a large man sitting next to her so I said, "It depends. Is that your husband?" In all seriousness, she answered "How do you know?"

Let me answer this question because the chances are good that it's weighing on your mind. Here's the answer. EVERY relationship has a cycle. In the beginning, you fell in love with your spouse. You anticipated their call, wanted their touch, and liked their idiosyncrasies. Falling in love with your spouse wasn't hard. In fact, it was a completely natural and spontaneous experience. You didn't have to DO anything. That's why it's called "falling" in love... Because it's happening TO YOU. People in love sometimes say, "I was swept of my feet." Think about the imagery of that __expression. It implies that you were just standing there; doing nothing, and then something came along and happened TO YOU. Falling is love is easy. It's a passive and spontaneous experience. But after a few years of marriage, the euphoria of love fades. It's the natural cycle of EVERY relationship. Slowly but surely, phone calls become a bother (if they come at all), touch is not always welcome (when it happens), and your spouse's idiosyncrasies, instead of being cute, drive you nuts. The symptoms of this stage vary with every relationship, but if you think about your marriage! , you wi ll notice a dramatic difference between the initial stage when you were in love and a much duller or even angry subsequent stage.. At this point, you and/or your spouse might start asking, "Did I marry the right person?" And as you and your spouse reflect on the euphoria of the love you once had, you may begin to desire that experience with someone else. This is when marriages breakdown. People blame their spouse for their unhappiness and look outside their marriage for fulfillment. Extramarital fulfillment comes in all shapes and sizes. Infidelity is the most obvious. But sometimes people turn to work,a hobby, a friendship, excessive TV, or abusive substances. But the answer to this dilemma does NOT lie outside your marriage. It lies within it. I'm not saying that you couldn't fall in love with someone else. You could. And TEMPORARILY you'd feel better. But you'd be in the same situation a few years later. Because (listen carefully to this): THE KEY TO SUCCEEDING IN MARRIAGE IS NOT FINDING THE RIGHT PERSON; IT'S LEARNING TO LOVE THE PERSON YOU FOUND. SUSTAINING love is not a passive or spontaneous experience. It'll NEVER just happen to you. You can't "find" LASTING love. You have to "make" it day in and day out. That's why we have the __expression "the labor of love." Because it takes time, effort, and energy . And most importantly, it takes WISDOM . You have to know WHAT TO DO to make your marriage work. Make no mistake about it. Love is NOT a mystery. There are specific things you can do (with or without your spouse) to succeed with your marriage. Just as there are physical laws of the universe (such as gravity), there are also laws for relationships. Just as the right diet and exercise program makes you physically stronger, certain habits in your relationship WILL make your marriage stronger. It's a direct cause and effect. If you know and apply the laws, the results are predictable. ..you can "make" love. Love in marriage is indeed a "decision"... Not just a feeling. "No one falls in love by choice, it is by CHANCE. No one stays in love by chance, it is by WORK. And no one falls out of love by chance, it is by choice"

Love & Marriage --(@

A student asks a teacher, "What is love?" The teacher said, "in order to answer your question, go to the wheat field and choose the biggest wheat and come back. But the rule is: you can go through them only once and cannot turn back to pick." The student went to the field, go thru first row, he saw one big wheat, but he wonders. may be there is a bigger one later. Then he saw another bigger one.. But may be there is an even bigger one waiting for him. Later, when he finished more than half of the wheat field, he start to realize that the wheat is not as big as the previous one he saw, he know he has missed the biggest one, and he regretted. So, he ended up went back to the teacher with empty hand. The teacher told him, "this is love. You keep looking for a better one, but when later you realize, you have already miss the person." "What is marriage then?" the student asked. The teacher said, "in order to answer your question, go to the corn field and choose the biggest corn and come back. But the rule is: you can go through them only once and cannot turn back to pick." The student went to the corn field, this time he is careful not to repeat the previous mistake, when he reach the middle of the field, he has picked one medium corn that he feel satisfy, and come back to the teacher. The teacher told him, "This time you bring back a corn.. You look for one that is just nice, and you have faith and believe this is the best one you get.. "This is marriage."

Book of life --(@

• Have a firm handshake.

• Look people in the eye.

• Sing in the shower.

• Own a great stereo system.

• If in a fight, hit first and hit hard.

• Keep secrets.

• Never give up on anybody. Miracles happen everyday.

• Always accept an outstretched hand.

• Be brave. Even if you're not, pretend to be. No one can tell the difference.

• Avoid sarcastic remarks.

• Choose your life's mate carefully. From this one decision will come 90 per cent of all your happiness or misery.

• Make it a habit to do nice things for people who will never find out.

• Lend only those books you never care to see again.

• Never deprive someone of hope; it might be all that they have.

• When playing games with children, let them win.

• Give people a second chance, but not a third.

• Become the most positive and enthusiastic person you know.

• Loosen up. Relax. Except for rare life-and-death matters, nothing is as important as it first seems.

• Don't allow the phone to interrupt important moments. It's there for your convenience, not the caller's.

• Be a good loser. Be a good winner.

• Think twice before burdening a friend with a secret.

• When someone hugs you, let them be the first to let go.

• Keep it simple. Be modest. A lot was accomplished before you were born.

• Beware of the person who has nothing to lose.

• Live your life so that your epitaph could read, No Regrets.

• Be bold and courageous. When you look back on life, you'll regret the things you didn't do more than the one's you did.

• Never waste an opportunity to tell someone you love them.

• Remember no one makes it alone. Have a grateful heart and be quick to acknowledge those who helped you.

• Take charge of your attitude. Don't let someone else choose it for you.

• Visit friends and relatives when they are in hospital; you need only stay a few minutes.

• Begin each day with some of your favourite music.

• Once in a while, take the scenic route.

• Send a lot of Valentine cards. Sign them, 'Someone who thinks you're terrific.'

• Answer the phone with enthusiasm and energy in your voice.

• Keep a note pad and pencil on your bed-side table. Million-dollar ideas sometimes strike at 3 a.m.

• Show respect for everyone who works for a living, regardless of how trivial their job.

• Send your loved ones flowers. Think of a reason later.

• Make someone's day by paying the toll for the person in the car behind you.

• Become someone's hero.

• Count your blessings.

• Compliment the meal when you're a guest in someone's home.

• Wave at the children on a school bus.

• Remember that 80 per cent of the success in any job is based on our ability to deal with people.

Don't expect life to be fair.

Appraisal | Resignation --(@

A newly-joined trainee engineer asks his boss "What is the meaning of appraisal?" Boss : Do you know the meaning of resignation ? Trainee : Yes, I do. Boss : So let me make you understand what an appraisal is by comparing it with resignation. Appraisal - In an appraisal meeting they will speak only about your weakness, errors and failures.- During an appraisal you may need to cry and beg for even a 10% pay hike. - During an appraisal, they will deny promotion saying that you did not meet the expectation, you don't have leadership qualities, and that you had several drawbacks in reaching objective/goal. - There is a 90% chance of not getting any significant incentives after appraisal. Resignation - In a resignation meeting they will speak only about your strengths, past achievements and success. - In a resignation meeting you can easily demand ( or get more without asking ) more than 50-60% pay-hike ! - During resignation, they'll say you are the core member of the team; that you are the vision of the company, and so " How can you go ? "; you have to take the project on your shoulders and lead your juniors to success. - There is a 90% chance of getting an immediate pay-hike after you put in your resignation. Trainee : Yes, boss, good enough. Now I know what to do.When you are about to do my appraisal, I will resign.

Secret of Success --(@

A young man asked Socrates the secret of Success. Socrates told the young man to meet him near the river the next morning. They met.Socrates asked the young man to walk with him towards the river.When the water got up to their neck, Socrates took the young man by surprise and ducked him into the water. The man struggled to get out but Socrates was strong and kept him there until he started turning blue.The young man struggled hard and finally managed to get out and the first thing he did was to gasp and take deep breath. Socrates asked 'What you wanted the most when you were there?' The man replied 'Air'.Socrates said 'that's the most secret to success. When you want success as badly as you wanted air, you will get it. There is no other secret'.

Valuable Words --(@

For better Life --(@

1. Take a 10-30 minutes walk every day. And while you walk, smile. 2. Sit in silence for at least 10 minutes each day. 3. Sleep for 7 hours. 4. Live with the 3 E's -- Energy, Enthusiasm, and Empathy. 5. Play more games. 6. Read more books than you did in 2007. 7. Make time to practice meditation, yoga, and prayer. They provide us with daily fuel for our busy lives. 8. Spend time with people over the age of 70 & under the age of 6. 9. Dream more while you are awake. 10. Eat more foods that grow on trees and plants and eat less food that is manufactured in plants. 11. Drink plenty of water. 12. Try to make at least three people smile each day. 13. Don't waste your precious energy on gossip. 14. Forget issues of the past. Don't remind your partner with his/her mistakes of the past. That will ruin your present happiness. 15. Don't have negative thoughts or things you cannot control. Instead invest your energy in the positive present moment. 16. Realize that life is a school and you are here to learn. Problems are simply part of the curriculum that appear and fade away like algebra class but the lessons you learn will last a lifetime. 17. Eat breakfast like a king, lunch like a prince and dinner like a beggar. 18. Smile and laugh more. 19. Life is too short to waste time hating anyone. Don't hate others. 20. Don't take yourself so seriously. No one else does. 21. You don't have to win every argument. Agree to disagree. 22. Make peace with your past so it won't spoil the present. 23. Don't compare your life to others'. You have no idea what their journey is all about. Don't compare your partner with others. 24. No one is in charge of your happiness except you. 25. Forgive everyone for everything. 26. What other people think of you is none of your business. 27. However good or bad a situation is, it will change. 28. Your job won't take care of you when you are sick. Your friends will. Stay in touch. 29. Get rid of anything that isn't useful, beautiful or joyful. 30. Envy is a waste of time. You already have all you need. 31. The best is yet to come. 32. No matter how you feel, get up, dress up and show up. 33. Do the right thing! 34. Call your family often. 35. Your inner most is always happy. So be happy. 36. Each day give something good to others. 37. Don't over do. Keep your limits.

God won't ask..--(@

Tip of life --(@

Life is... --(@

10 most important thing in life --(@

LOVE The Special Feeling That Makes You Feel All Warm And Wonderful. RESPECT Treating Others As WellAs You Would Like To Be Treated. APPRECIATION To Be Grateful For All The Good Things Life Has To Offer. HAPPINESS The Full Enjoyment Of Each Moment.A Smiling Face. FORGIVENESS The Ability To Let Things Be Without Anger. SHARING The Joy Of Giving Without Thought Of Receiving. HONESTY The Quality Of Always Telling The Truth. INTEGRITY The Purity Of Doing What's Right,No Matter What. COMPASSION The Essence Of Feeling Another's Pain,While Easing Their Hurt. PEACE The Reward For Living

How to Live a LIFE --(@

Be calm...quite..tranquil

Bloom as often as you can Stay close to your family Explore the world around you Enjoy the relaxing rhythm of wave

Watch the moon rise

Spread your wings and take off on your own

Then enjoy the comfort of coming home again..

18 Rules to be followed --(@